Motivated By Failure

How you measure your success? Achieving goals? Personal energy level? Impact on others?

What if you fail and fall right on your face? How do you get up and move on?

You learn from  mistakes and motivate yourself. You adopt The Mindset Of Failure.

by s-t-r-a-n-g-e

Me: “Sweetheart, I feel exhausted, I feel I’ve spent too much energy and achieved nothing.”

My precious wife: “You achieved a lot. You took your chance and you experienced what you wanted to.”

Yeah!! I learned a LOT, I experienced a LOT, and I know I am far ahead of the game now, although I have only few tangible achievements to show off right now.

Another great support and motivation I’ve got from Dale Carnegie Weekly Tips, here is what I’ve got lately:

“Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man that goes the furthest is generally the one willing to do and dare. The “sure thing” boat never gets far from the shore.” - Dale Carnegie

Dear alik:

Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn rather than occasions to win or lose. Doing so will open you up to new possibilities and can increase your sense of self-acceptance.

What a timely advice!

I recommend Dale Carnegie Weekly Tips, here is a Sample weekly tip.

Enjoy.

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  1. Vered says:

    It’s true. The journey itself is important – and shouldn’t be viewed as a mad rush to get to our goals.

  2. blogrdoc says:

    The prospect of failure in the face of breakthroughs is nowhere near as scary to me as the prospect of doing the same thing over and over in life without taking risks.

    Having said that, I’m a pretty conservative guy in the risks that I take. But this year is the year that I’m really trying to change that. :)

  3. alik levin says:

    Vered and blogrdoc, thanks for your support!
    much appreciated !!

  4. Jimmy May, Aspiring Geek says:

    Over the course of the last decade I have taken numerous Microsoft Certified Professional exams. I have never, ever failed one–until last week. The topic was out of my area of expertise, yet I’d invested time preparing, & I thought I was ready.

    My intital response was disappointment. I wasn’t humiliated, yet it was humbling. And I knew this would give me an opportunity to master the material. My immediate actions included:
    1. I taped the exam printout & taped it immediately below the Vision Statement which I read each-&-every morning.
    2. I ordered study guides which will provide the knowledge I need not merely to pass, but to ACE it!

    Thanks, Alik.

  5. Alik -

    Very thoughtful post. If we dwell on trying new frontiers without obsessing our thoughts with the results, we can enjoy the experiment as your wife terms it. Life is to try and live with pride of an effort. It’s always better to fall and get up even if we fall again then to be enslaved by the fear of fall to do nothing.

    Shilpan

  6. alik levin says:

    @Jimmy,
    Thanks for checking-in, partner! Improper exception handling is one of the cruelest performance killers in software. With one project they needed to periodically restart their server since they abused exception handling. Best would be monitor for exceptions, log it, analyze, and fix the problem. That is exactly what you demonstrated – you admitted the failure, analyze it, fixed the problem and moved forward. Same with humans I think. Humans should learn from software performance engineering to cope with life challenges. With my project I often surprise stakeholders with perf tests results. After conducting initial perf test I proudly announce “we have great achievement – we failed!” – “huh?” – “Yes, it is achievement, now we know what we did not know. Now we know what to fix.”

    @Shilpan
    Thanks for inspiring comment – it perfectly resonates with success of this guy
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc&eurl=http://practicethis.com/2007/09/30/want-to-achieve-results-push-yourself-out-of-comfort-zone/

  7. J.D. Meier says:

    I saw a little sign on in a shop. It went something like this:
    It’s not how many times you get knocked down; it’s how many times you get back up.

  8. alik levin says:

    JD, this is good one indeed!
    Yesterday I had most *twisted* knock down – I first was anxious (almost choked), then I laughed. I am bullet proof, unbreakable. Cannot they get it already?! LOL!

  9. Jimmy May, Aspiring Geek says:

    I stumbled on this quote–author unknown, which epitomizes the right action better than any I can recall:

    “Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.”

    I love the high wire.

  10. Sara says:

    I definitely agree that many things in life aren’t win-lose situations, and shouldn’t be looked at as such. I would distinguish the differences in Dale Carnegie’s analogy further, though.

    The man doing and daring more will likely have more rewarding experiences, but it’s always okay for him to dock at the shore and just dangle his feet in the water every now and then. Sometimes the best way to appreciate life’s adventures is to not have one every once in a while.

  11. Jimmy May, Aspiring Geek says:

    I shared my experience above regarding my reaction to failure. I failed my first certification exam ever. As a follow-up I’d like to let you know that I dusted myself off, got back on the horse, & beat the exam earlier this week. “Real” failure, is NOT an option!

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