How often do you hear complaints about how life is unfair? How often do you hear excuses for work is not being done? Does not it sound like “quack, quack, quack”?
In their book “Raving Fans: A Revolutionary Approach To Customer Service” Ken Blanchard and Sheldon Bowles mention a quote from Wayne W. Dyer who wrote another book, “You’ll See It When You Believe It: The Way to Your Personal Transformation“:
“If you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself… Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Do not be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd”
During the speak Stephen Covey gave at Microsoft he mentioned “victimism” term. This is what JD captured on that one:
Six Metastasizing Cancers (Victimism)
Covey showed us a slide that listed what he called the Six Metastasizing Cancers:
The take away here is that these are ineffective behaviors and you end up acting like a victim.
Recent Shilpan’s 5 Ways to Identify Whiners and Winners adds few more angles to the topic talking about Failure, Opportunities, and Time.
My Takeaways – Do’s and Don’t's
- Criticizing – do not criticize others, do Get Criticized – The More The Better.
- Complaining – don’t complain unless you do have something useful to put on the table.
- Comparing – do not compare. Do what you love, go with the passion. Take a look at Mike King’s Passion Enhances Productivity.
- Competing – do not compete. Do offer unique value.
- Contending – do not contend. Do collaborate, do find common ground and multiply the end result.
- Cynicism – do not be cynic, it makes people get offended. Be supportive, it turns folks in Raving Fans.
- Failure – do not afraid to fail. Do fail fast. Do Not Let Failure Drain Your Energy But Empower, be motivated by failure – The Mindset Of Failure
- Opportunities - do create the opportunities your self, do not wait them to just show out of the blue.
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” – Thomas Alva Edison
- Time – do not waste no time. I used to call special occasions “quality time”. Then my good friend opened my eyes telling me that “all time is quality time”. Do value time, it is one of the 3 Most Precious Things In The World Are Free