Entries Tagged 'Motivation' ↓
May 23rd, 2008 — Influence Without Authority, Motivation
Do you have a dream? I bet you do, me either. What about those that surround you, do they have their dreams too? No doubt. Who’s responsible for their dream to come true?
You.
You are responsible for their dream fulfillment.
by mikelens
Matthew Kelly poses an interesting question in his book The Dream Manager
:
“Isn’t one of the primary responsibilities of all relationships to help each other fulfill our dreams?”
I say “Yes”, it is.
In every interaction I reflect on what I do and try to see the other party as a customer, I try to constantly reflect on myself - “Am I offering this customer the best experience?”.
Today I am better than yesterday
The result was amazing:
- My kids get their daddy more often and with full attention. Their biggest wish is having their parents to spend more time with them. Not just be but interact.
- My wife gets more attention. Less transactions, more meaningful conversations, and more positive emotions. We both noticed our interactions become transactional lately. We wished to seize our passion and our love back, just like it was 10 years ago. And we seize it back now.
- My managers and co-workers … I realized I made few serious mistakes. Now I know what to improve.
I think that today I am a better person than yesterday. I help making other people make their dream come true, and they help me to make mine to come true in response.
May 19th, 2008 — Motivation
How you measure your success? Achieving goals? Personal energy level? Impact on others?
What if you fail and fall right on your face? How do you get up and move on?
You learn from mistakes and motivate yourself. You adopt The Mindset Of Failure.
by s-t-r-a-n-g-e
Me: “Sweetheart, I feel exhausted, I feel I’ve spent too much energy and achieved nothing.”
My precious wife: “You achieved a lot. You took your chance and you experienced what you wanted to.”
Yeah!! I learned a LOT, I experienced a LOT, and I know I am far ahead of the game now, although I have only few tangible achievements to show off right now.
Another great support and motivation I’ve got from Dale Carnegie Weekly Tips, here is what I’ve got lately:
“Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man that goes the furthest is generally the one willing to do and dare. The “sure thing” boat never gets far from the shore.” - Dale Carnegie
Dear alik:
Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn rather than occasions to win or lose. Doing so will open you up to new possibilities and can increase your sense of self-acceptance.
What a timely advice!
I recommend Dale Carnegie Weekly Tips, here is a Sample weekly tip.
Enjoy.
April 14th, 2008 — Influence Without Authority, Leadership, Motivation
Mastered Emotional Intelligence Core Skills? Are you able to manage your own emotional energy?
Now you can use EI to lead and empower others by utilizing EI higher order skills
by s-t-r-a-n-g-e
Daniel A. Feldman offers higher order EI skills in his book Emotionally Intelligent Leadership: Inspiring Others to Achieve Results
- Taking responsibilities
- Acting independently and with accountability
- Owning a problem as well as a resolution
- Generating choices
- Be open to varied possibilities in anything
- Discover available choices and help other recognize it
- Embracing a Vision
- Committing to a particular view of the future
- Need to have guide actions and to be communicated to others.
- Having courage to:
- Look at my choices and myself
- Take responsibility
- Buck trends and standard modes of operation
- Make tough decisions
- Demonstrating resolve
- Make decisions what to do with firm determination
- Demonstrate commitment to a plan of action
Techniques
- Responsibility checklist
- Am I making a contribution?
- Am I fully accepting the consequences of the actions I’ve taken?
- In light of my subordinates’ reactions, is what I am doing discouraging them or uplifting then?
- Based on my actions thus far, whom am I serving?
- Choice building
- Let go of the need to be always right, of having only valid solution, of the need to control.
- Solicit choices from others
- Invite ideas from outside my current experience and culture
- Vision linking
- Select vision that I can willingly and actively embrace
- Use metaphors to make accessible by others
- Own it and live it
- Incorporate it in my daily language
- Lighting the fire
- Recognize what I am afraid of
- Focus on the benefits, not fear, of taking the risk
- Tolerate the discomfort
- Practice by envisioning the steps to success.
- Firming up
- Choose reachable and worthwhile long-term goals according to my values
- Build short term targets
- Develop a support network for my intention
- Anticipate and prepare for difficulties and obstacles
- Continually renew my resolutions.
April 3rd, 2008 — Motivation
How do you manage your emotional energy? How do you use your emotions to motivate yourself and others?
You develop your core emotional intelligence skills.
by s-t-r-a-n-g-e
In his book Emotionally Intelligent Leadership: Inspiring Others to Achieve Results Daniel A. Feldman describes the following core skills and techniques to develop it.
- Knowing yourself
- Recognize your emotions
- Differentiation between emotions
- Knowing the reason behind the emotions
- Maintaining control
- Resisting or delaying an impulse
- Controlling aggression, hostility, and irresponsible behavior
- Managing emotions in a flexible and adaptable way
- Reading others
- Being aware of the emotions of others
- Appreciation emotions of others
- Understanding how and why people feel and act as they do
- Perceiving accurately
- Accurately assessing a situation
- Having clear vision
- Keeping a broad perspective and being objective
- Communication with flexibility
- Having a full range of emotional expression
- Being authentic
- Addressing your needs as well as the need of others
Developing the core skills
- “Park”
- Pause
- Reflect on “what” and “why”
- Choose action.
- Core connecting
- 3 deep breaths
- Become aware of the next thought in my mind
- Say “I am having the thought about ….”
- 3 deep breaths
- Syncing-In
- Have a beginner’s mind
- Focus on immediate experience
- Re-engage in what I am doing, what’s in hand
- Focused listening
- Expand my reception
- Step into other’s shoes
- Dig deeper into the message
- Re-framing
- Identify current frame [my current situation]
- Look into the future [what I want it to be]
- Explore new frames [What are opportunities? Positive sides, Other’s view on it]
- Process communication
- Body language
- What’s happening? Not what’s being discussed.
- Make a clear, non-attacking process comment
March 23rd, 2008 — Motivation
What are the most precious things in the world? How to identify what’s priceless?
Priceless is something that is given for free, but when lost it cannot be claimed back or bought. Time, health, and trust are given for free to each one of us. When lost no money can buy it.
by covilha
Time
Time is given for free. “I have no time” sounds too often. The more I hear it the more it sounds weirder to me. We are all given 24 hours a day, ain’t we? The trick is allocating right amount of time to the right thing.
My take is that Time Boxing Is The Biggest Secret For Achieving Results.
“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” - Harvey MacKay
Health
Most of us are born physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy. If it is not the case there is no reason to make it worse. Preserve it and grow. Invest in your physical, mental, and emotional health.
My take is that one must be sensitive to the 4 Dimensions Of Personal Power .
“To keep the body in good health is a duty…otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.” - Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta
Trust
Trust is hard to earn. Really hard. You earn trust by being there and offering value. Not just value, but the one that meets the challenge.
My take is two fold:
“Trust no one unless you have eaten much salt with him.” - Cicero
