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By: alik levin

alik levin — Sun, 10 May 2009 18:46:48 +0000

Stephen,
Good to hear you liked it
Thank you for the recommendations – it is very valuable for me.
Regarding having a habit of being positive…. – I was naturally born heckler… even until very recently… Having i realized I am wasting my and others *TIME* and *ENERGY* w/o getting any results, I am stumbling. I have chosen to move forward, I did not want to stumble on the same place w/o progress. First I was monitoring myself depressing my heckler’s instincts. Not any more – it is my second nature, I am anti-heckler now … though I still like asking questions, but those that can lead to some useful result vs just embarrassing the other party.

By: Stephen - Rat Race Trap

Stephen - Rat Race Trap — Sun, 10 May 2009 17:52:00 +0000

Alik, I really enjoyed this. It’s not natural and it’s not completely habit for me yet, but I’m trying to be much more positive. If you haven’t read the book “Positivity” by Barbara Fredrickson, I highly recommend it.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Sun, 10 May 2009 06:18:51 +0000

Liara,
Must be honest – I am far from being ready to love everyone and everything unconditionally, way too far from it. The good news is that I am less aggressive to fight what I do not like, many things I accept now, I am less impulsive with my decisions, building my convulsions based on reflection and not on emotions. Does it count for a progress for me?

By: Liara Covert

Liara Covert — Sat, 09 May 2009 20:34:09 +0000

Every human being has the capacity to put a positive spin on every experience. The thing is, not every person makes that choice. To be grateful for where you are every moment transforms experience into unlimted reasons for sharing love, gratitude and positive energy.

Ever notice how some people feel compelled to tell you why their day is going lousy? Why they lost a client or, did not have as useful an experience as expected? Your reaction to negative people can reinforce or chip away at your base state of calmness. How ready are you to love everything and everyone unconditionally? This begins and ends with how you feel about your inner self.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Fri, 08 May 2009 12:39:57 +0000

Sheila,
I like your angle – reflecting and making the decision vs. being impulsive.
Thank you for kind words . I am back on track.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Fri, 08 May 2009 12:36:46 +0000

tom,
Good reflection. From my experience, best friend of a consultant is trust – it is way too hard to build and it is easy to lose it. Often, the trust is lost when a consultant exhibits like he knows it all but never put results on the table. It’s better telling your customer “I do not know” and “surprisingly” deliver than “Sure I know it all” and deliver nothing. I am not saying you should run the streets telling the world you know nothing. I am saying coming across as know-it-all does not build trust at all. Regarding “small wars” and “huge issue”. It is all about impact. If the “small war” causes huge issue seems like you underestimated the war..

Always think outcome – this will give you the idea how big/small the issue at hand, and whether you want to fight to the end or just lose and move on.

J.D.,
Thank you. Ironically… when I was meeting a girl who is my wife now she thought all my compliments were fake. She was confused. She hated me even more for that. I thought it is the “war” I cannot lose. I won by showing the brighter side of me – LOL

By: Sheila Atwood

Sheila Atwood — Fri, 08 May 2009 00:37:00 +0000

Hi Alik

I agree that we should praise others. When I look for faults that is what I find, when I look for the good that is what I find.

I have a criteria I like to use when ever I am handling people. I ask my self does this invalidate-dominate or enhance.

It is good to see a new post, missed you.

Sheila

By: J.D. Meier

J.D. Meier — Thu, 07 May 2009 17:35:00 +0000

Beautiful gem.

Some people confuse optimism or positive with fake, but that’s wrong. If something sucks, it sucks. Instead, it’s about changing your default of finding the flaws to finding the goodness … take a look at the other side of the coin … and shine the light on the bright stuff.