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By: alik levin

alik levin — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 08:25:29 +0000

Reallie,
“Loose lips, sink ships.” – Hard to imagine how many ships I sunk…

By: Reallie

Reallie — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 08:09:27 +0000

I think if you go inside of yourself, greater is he or she that is within you than in the world.
Be still, and look into your eyes, they are the window of your soul and people unless they are spiritually aware sometimes, don’t realize the power of their words.
Loose lips, sink ships.

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What Your Kid Knows About Creativity — Practice This — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 12:56:34 +0000

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By: alik levin

alik levin — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 04:27:40 +0000

Sheila,
I like this rule. Shame I started to practice this only recently

Lisa,
Good to hear that! When our first daughter was born we took every feedback for granted. Imagine how many mistakes we have done. With our second child we politely listened to the feedback but we did it only when we felt it’s right. Good stuff, Lisa!

By: LisaNewton

LisaNewton — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 01:30:58 +0000

I remember when my first daughter was born and everyone gave me feedback. I listened, took the advice I thought would work for me, and discarded the rest. But, I always remembered that the feedback was given with the best intentions.

By: Sheila Atwood

Sheila Atwood — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 22:26:35 +0000

I like J.D.s Comment, you can ignore it, filter it or take it all.

Keeping your purpose in mind would help you do those three things.

Sheila

By: alik levin

alik levin — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 17:17:42 +0000

Barbara,
Happy I am surprised you .
Good point!
Those people do not look for feedback – they look for affirmation. “You are awesome!” – while compliments are nice, what potentially can I learn from it, how can I improve based on it? I like Bill Gates’ “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.” You hardly hear compliments from unhappy customers, eh?

Tess,
I agree the book is timeless. What bothers me a lot is a form factor. The chapters remind me mini stories that would fit nicely as a blog posts. That way it’d be easy to scan it daily and find the nuggets in no time and apply it to a situation at hand. Would not you like to have it as searchable/scannable nuggets of wisdom? I would.

Jimmy,
Good for you! [and me ]

By: Jimmy May, Aspiring Geek

Jimmy May, Aspiring Geek — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 15:27:41 +0000

I belong to an organization which has a counter-intuitive yet true & effective aphorism:

“What other people think of you is none of your business.”

Indeed.

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 14:02:08 +0000

I love Andrew’s line about young women! However it’s true about most. When I find myself obsessing about what someone thinks I remind myself they’re not thinking of me at all because “It’s not all about me!”

I read the book when it was first published. It sits on my shelf, dog earred, underlined and worn.

I think the lessons are good for a lifetime. Don’t you?