Comments on: Do Not Join Them. Beat Them.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 10:04:45 +0000

Fred S,
I think the whole point of failing fast is to avoid failing too badly.

By: Fred S

Fred S — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 15:01:08 +0000

It’s interesting how ‘fail fast’ can reinforce the art of continually looking for weaknesses in an opponents defenses. By combining this with the fighting metaphor it also brings up the issue of ‘not failing too badly.’ Sometimes you are in an all or nothing move, but most often its better to be thinking about the next ten ‘what ifs.’

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By: Ted Bagley

Ted Bagley — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:30:39 +0000

i think that the putting the hands together up in the Wei is a great tool as well as a play on words. Besides being exposed to a possible friend, they’re ready just in case.

By: tom

tom — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:30:20 +0000

The bad thing about being shy was that it all bottled out and then i snapped like crazy, which usually came out even worse then i intended.

So yes, I am learning to express myself and control my anger. I guess its called emotional intelligence.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:23:57 +0000

tom,
Good points.
No fist fights…
Stepping back and understanding where the person is coming from is a good tactic – both in sports and life…
Personally I love emotional intelligence and influence w/o authority vs fist fights. Works much better

By: tom

tom — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 20:54:11 +0000

Alik
I never been the kind to get into fights with people, and i mean fist fights.
I always seemed to take a step back and try and understand where the person is coming from.

As i always say, no matter what someone did, there is always a reason, even as dumb or hideous as it is.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 20:46:01 +0000

tom,
Good point.
Many times when you are independent and growing you get involved with “war”, struggle.
To keep your independence and growth sometimes you need to fight.
What’s your prescription for peaceful independence and growth?

By: tom

tom — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 20:30:15 +0000

I never really thought about it but if you can’t beat them join them, doesn’t seem to make too much sense.
I mean you were at “war” with that person for a reason, and I am not so certain they are willing to just join in their battle now.

i say we got to strive for independence and always keep growing.

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