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By: alik levin

alik levin — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 04:07:14 +0000

Vered, I adopted “radio dial” metaphor. It really works for me. I encourage you reading this
http://thebookshare.blogspot.com/2007/08/your-thoughts-create-your-feelings.html

By: Vered

Vered — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 03:48:47 +0000

“I focus on positive emotions when I am emotionally drained”. Interesting, and inspiring. I am still learning to do this… not always successful though.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 18:31:32 +0000

To be honest sometime ago I let my emotions drag me into something I regret till now, the damage is done. To “fix” the problem I started to invest my time in learning EI. Emotions are one of the 4 core personal power sources that I am eager to master. EI seems to be the path to go.
blogrdoc, “Park” seems to be your (and my) friend AND “taking responsibilities” which is higher EI skill to be published next
Another technique I found extremely powerful is separationg the person and actoins. Most obvious example is kids. Sometimes they drive me simply nuts. I separate the person (my kids, actually one of the main reasons of my existance) and the actions. I calm down and get on track. I even explain them that I love them more than anything in this world but what they did is unacceptable. That way they know they are beloved and do not lose confidence and simultaniously they understand they crossed the line and that they need to improve.

By: blogrdoc

blogrdoc — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 16:06:08 +0000

One thing I’ve tried to remember is to not get angry in public and to keep my cool. Note that this is different from being confrontational. I don’t mind being confrontational and a pain in the ass. But loosing one’s cool is usually bad. The few times ever in my life I’ve done it, I’ve regretted it. I should add I work in an extremely confrontational environment. People swear, curse, yell, raise their voice all the time. I’m struggling to avoid to becoming ‘one of them’.

By: alik levin

alik levin — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 04:23:25 +0000

@Vered

For me it is crucial skill. I found it *extremely* powerful when managing my energy. I focus on positive emotions when I am emotionally drained to seize back on emotional power level. I switch the “radio wave” off negative emotions to avoid emotional power loss.
Take a look at 4 dimensions of personal power here, tell me what you think
http://practicethis.com/2008/03/06/4-dimensions-of-personal-power/

I am software engineer – in software, exception handling (unstable conditions) is resource consuming process that degrades software performance. Same with people, when handling exceptions (mostly caused by negative emotions) your personal performance bogs down, is not it so?
Have a look at my guest post on steve-olson’s about another comparison between software and humans
http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-engineer-yourself-for-peak-performance

@Shilpan

Agreed, I was sort of impulsive kind of guy (I am still like that but much less and even lesser on surface but internally). It was hurting my performance and social connections badly. Pausing was the life saver for me. I think about glass of water and imagine I am drinking it when under impulse. Simple, practical, effective. I cannot remember when last time I was acting impulsively, honestly!